I wasn’t sure really where to put this, and mods, feel free to delete because I am writing this a little drunk.
It’s almost midnight on a Friday night and I’m alone. Which, in itself doesn’t bother me - I quite enjoy my own company for the most part but there are times…
I know the LHP is a path we walk mostly alone and I accept that. But I’m having one of those nights where I feel lonely. Like, I’d just like to have someone physically here, you know?
So my question is how do you guys deal with the loneliness? Is it just something you get used to? Or are the coping strategies you employ? Like I said, I know that this is mostly a solitary path and I’m okay with that. But yeah… I guess I’m just having a bad night and wanted some advice
I have to deal with that too. Usually, Im just fine being alone, but I think its human nature to want some form of companionship.
I generally, just shift focus to a movie, or new project or remeber how much my exhusband was an ahole and then Im good.
I really dont like being in relationships like relationships here are expected to be. So, I think Id be cool with just a “friend” , meet up do wild things and then go separate ways
If you meant, lonely like not having magickal friends close by, I dont have that either. Ive just learned to accept that down south in the US its gonna be hard to find magick folk. But its still sad.
I am married with an extremely tight group of Occultist friends as well as non occultist friends. My best advice is to be yourself openly and put yourself out there. Even when we think we are doing this it is usually only half the truth.
Online dating is not only socially acceptable now (who cares?) but just objectively better and smarter, embrace it. Go to events or stuff in your area to meet friends, insert yourself into conversations, speak your surely unique and fascinating thoughts.
I think the idea of LHP=Alone is a mistaken position. Separation and individuation aren’t loneliness or anything necessarily. I compare this to the idea that you have to live out in the woods to separate from society, but i live in a major city and am just as separated from it and its culture, moreso than say a christian in the woods would be.
All that said you can try and spin your loneliness positively. Maybe other people are just in your way for instance. I like this quote:
“If you’re going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don’t even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery–isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you’ll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you’re going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is.” - Charles Bukowski
I’m a bit of an introvert. Dont like being around people any more than I have to .
Most of the people I consider friends don’t live anywhere near me but we talk regularly online and what not. So that helps a lot.
I suppose if I feel a bit lonely I just occupy myself with things and realize the benefits of being by myself and find things to do that I can improve on with myself.
. I’m a bit of a saddo as I’m not one for hobbies. But if you feel the need for companionship or friendships maybe look for things near u that does interests of yours and u might meet someone new.
Good luck and hang in there!
It’s a part of understanding that we…at least
… observe more.
I would and have failed on that respect.
My coworkers have no idea - haven’t for years. Others will contest, but I am more likely to end up with a pension meaning I don’t have to work until I die.
Pretty important piece of information they can’t provide
without similar circumstances.
Been a professional in various fields. IT, Biotech, etc… None would understand.
I’m a high maintenance individual and the best person to cater for my idiosyncratic needs is me. Other people are nearly always a hinderance, a mistake or unbearable. And I just love spending quality, solitary time with myself – it’s a real privilege.
I gave up on humanity a long time ago. For as long as I can remember, I was the strange, odd bod; that seditious prick who just couldn’t fit in. As I advanced on the path, I became more alienated and alienating to Homo normalis.
A Prayer
“O! Self that I seek to Become, open your mysteries to me. Rejoice in steps to overcome that which hinders me, bless my serenity in accepting that which I must suffer to change me and energise my Magickal curiosity that I may know the difference.
“Let my view extend beyond time and space!
“Hail, Myself-to-Be!”
Al.
Ps. Naamah is great inter alia for finding a partner and for memorable, real dirty sex. Lovely to work with and works quickly too. Just saying.
After my last relationship, if one could even call it that (it was long distance and got dumped via text after 3 years. Whole other story lol) I decided to do the same thing. I usually have a couple of people I can call on for company. One has sorta worked his way into a little higher stead than the others because we’re so similar, but I’m keeping him at arm’s length as we’re both kinda messed up and probably shouldn’t be in a relationship at all let alone with each other lol
I was struggling with this when you posted the topic and chose to refrain from responding until I wasn’t as caught up in it.
Mostly, by throwing tantrums in my journal and crying to the spirits I work with to throw me a line. The last time, I had a whole problem in the middle of the night, things had been stacking up it wasn’t just that I was feeling a little lonely, I was feeling way fucked up, overwhelmed, and untethered. One of them showed up, basically jumped in my body and put me to sleep after the four-second long calm down time. And I had a day filled with others the next day, it was a lot of fun.
When I’m struggling, with anything anymore, I ask for help. From them.
But other than that, meditation is helpful. So is talking with friends that are into witchy stuff, that’s good too. Knowing who is always happy to hear from me and talking with them. Contemplating what I really want with people in my life and realizing I like where I’m at, how things are for the most part, and if I don’t then magick is a step and half away and I can have what it is I want.
I’ve really enjoyed reading through these! Awesome topic.
I am not being flippant. But I take a good look at the people I might be around. Call that being a misanthrope, still it serves as an antidote against craving others’ company. The inner paucity of most bipeds serves me as a salutary horror.
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