Firstly, I do not intend to say through this post that this taboo is wrong! But simply to open some discussion about this, and speak on my own views.
There is this taboo among some magicians that using magick to influence others is wrong. This is certainly an interesting view.
I’m not entirely sure where this comes from, but it may come from this idea of free will and that magick can mingle with a person’s free will. Free will is seen as good, perhaps as a gift from the universe, and so mingling with it is inherently bad. Seems logical!
However, we influence others all the time in every day life. We influence others through our words, whether intended or not. People may influence others to be attracted to them by wearing makeup or dressing well. We ourselves are largely a combination of influences impressed into us since childhood. Yet, interestingly this is not seen as taboo.
One reason I can think of how one may argue about that is that this is done unconciously, or at least it doesn’t directly influence the will of a person. This depends on one’s philosophy as to how magick works, since my view is that both methods influence the Spirit of the person, which makes them not much different from each other.
Another reason (perhaps a more uncommon one) is that we are acting within fate when we do this in “mundane” life, but magick somehow works outside of fate, and so that is interfering with fate. We certainly see parts of that view. But you would have to contemplate how fate even works. If mundane life is controlled by fate, it was fate that lead you to cast that spell or petition that spirit.