Preparing Other Items
Dress your 2 (probably best if they are tall) candles in whatever herbs and oils you’ve brought for that purpose. Please do not make them more of a fire hazard than they already are.
Place these over a foot apart between you and the (big) mirror that shows at least your face.
- Possible additional materials: something to hold the photos mostly upright.
Mark the backside of each photo with all the personal details you can manage. The more, the merrier. Full name, date of birth, favorite color, favorite band, favorite food, most feared way to die, fears in general, smells commonly on this person, what makes them cry the fastest, laugh the fastest, secrets (although don’t get too graphic with those, just a gentle one will do), etc.
We, magicians, are used to name & birthday. But the truth is, we use those as binding anchors for our magick. As a direction and an end location for it to settle. In this ritual, you’re using ideally much more information about them as a means to anchor the obsession into not just their name, or their birthday/hour/whatever, but also into so much more of them. You’re going to fill out your photo in the same way.
If it scares you to write down, write it down. The more authentic and honest you are with these little sheets of paper, the stronger your ritual is going to come out. Names, which I’ve though so much about lately, hold a lot of power. They are the words we cloak ourselves in. Something to represent every aspect of us. But the reality is, that people hide a lot from their names too. Don’t associate everything they are with that collection of sounds. The aim is to include all of yourself and all of the other person. Don’t go exposing all their hidden secrets on a photo, you’re not trying to be mean, it’s just unique info or info that can–when added up–be made into this person and/or into yourself.
Try to throw at least one thing, and no more than three-four down that aren’t common knowledge per photo. How you choose to define common knowledge though, is up to you. I’d say if most people I’ve known for less than 1 year-5 years don’t know then it isn’t common.
Other than you, your pen/marker (something permanent that writes), and something to hold it up, nothing should be touching the picture. Not herbs, oils, candles, string, or anything else right now. Eventually, the string will rest at the base of the photos.
Stand them both up in front of the 2 candles. They should slightly face each other, but mostly face you. (Exception if you have brought the other human with in which case they should half face each other and half face you.)
Choose your color (I’d probably go with red unless you have a good reason otherwise). The string should probably be about a foot long? But I’m not about to go measure one. Long enough for 9 comfortable knots with space (1-3 inches) in between. Lay the string out flat between the two candles and their photos. It should not be touching either photo.
This is for the mirror that is big and faces you. You should be able to see you face at a minimum in your position either seated or standing. Preferably, also your shoulders.
The mirror actually has it’s own cleansing rite. It’s not too long or anything, but I’ll post that later on under something like “Mirror Cleansing.”
Just make sure it isn’t going to fall or break, is behind everything else in your setup, and that you can see yourself easily.
(If you’ve brought the other human, they go in front of the mirror. Between it and the string.)
Object to be Gifted
This one also gets it’s own attention during the ritual, but for now make sure it’s cleansed and set it down at the center of the string, between you and the string.
The Other Object (Setting Object)
This is ideally a tarot card (or rendition of one), an image, or a simple symbol (not sigils though) of what you want from this relationship. If you plan on using a container (jar, etc.), you might want to use something you can put in there.
So, because I don’t want to ruin a tarot deck, I might print out the 2 of Cups, The Devil, or 10 of Pentacles. If you’re using The Lovers and this person doesn’t already love you, just know that’s absolutely hilarious and consider something else. There’s a reason The Devil and The Lovers look like corrupted mirrors of each other in some major decks including Smith-Waite (which I refuse to call by another name).
This goes in front of the object you’re planning on giving them. You can maybe put under if that feels better, but only if you can still make it out well.
Just have it ready and somewhere it will not and cannot be distracting. Keep it within reach though. I’d say if you’re standing or seated on a chair, keep it on the floor. If you’re on the floor, I suggest you put it to the side of your nondominant hand where it isn’t constantly in your peripheral vision. You can have it a bit in front of you too as long as it won’t/doesn’t get in the way of anything else that will be going on.
When it’s time to use it, then obviously it’ll have to move to a more convenient location where it’s in front of you.
Today has been a fucked up day. My apologizes for typos. I’m not going to re-read for them though.